right or wrong

gone baby gone



I know, I know...I'm about two years late on this! But basking in the few hours that's left of my summer, I decided to laze around and watch a movie (something I probably won't have time to do in a few weeks). Now I've been meaning to see Gone Baby Gone for quite sometime now so tadah! I finally did. I had absolutely no idea what this movie was about prior to watching it...just knew it was directed by Ben Affleck, that my mom loved it, andddd that's pretty much it. So about two hours later, I'm sitting on my couch completely blown away, trying to wrap my head around all the moral questions that were just presented to me. Holy hell, that was an AMAZING movie. So many...so, so many hard questions that I (unfortunately) don't have the answer to...

What would I have done? Given the situation, whose side would I be on? It's so hard to answer...these aren't simple black and white questions of wrong or right. Now at first glance you'd think it'd be an easy decision. The kid's mom is a crackhead who leaves her alone while taking a hit. She clearly doesn't have a proper job to support a family and hangs around drug dealers, pimps, prostitutes...you know, just the kind of people every child needs for a healthy, stable support system. So given that, I'd obviously leave the child with Morgan Freeman and his wife (can't remember character names, sorry)...a responsible, well-off, supportive couple who actually love and care for the child. Right?

Maybe. A part of me can't help but find some credence in Casey Affleck's point of view. You can't just steal someone else's child. Yes, you mean well and yes you are most definitely more well-equipped to take care of this child and she'll most probably have a 100% chance of succeeding in life...but does that make it right? Is it your life to give? Who are we to decide what's best? Would we be playing God by giving into something like this? I don't know...is it idealism by youth to think that this would be the right thing to do? Naïveté to think that it's possible for Amy Ryan's character to change? Are we just deluding ourselves into thinking these things? Does the wear and tear of life and of age make this decision so much easier? Make us pessimistic or rather, more realistic? ...that there is no hope for the child if left in the hands of Amy's character. That this is better for her...like Michelle Monaghan said, isn't it better to know that the child is in a safe place where she can have sleepovers and go to school and basically, have a shot at a normal life? I think these things and then again I go back all over again and ask, who gives you the right to make these decisions? I don't know, I don't know...

So I go back and forth, back and forth asking myself what I'd do. But clearly I don't have the answers...guess I'll have to keep mulling over it. Hopefully, I'll never have to make this kind of a decision...